Self Improvement

“I hate my life” Is this your mantra?? 

Are you spending the whole day thinking and wishing that you had a better life?

It’s an unfortunate reality for many people. In your unconscious, you know what’s wrong with you, what’s missing in your life but you don’t have the power to overcome the situation, to take a step for you. 

You keep repeating “I hate my life” instead of focusing on how you can make your life better.. How can you make this world a happy place for you? 

It’s only you who is responsible for your evil life. When a person keeps focusing on the negativity around him, it leaves impressions on his thoughts. Ultimately these negative thoughts influence his life in a wrong way.

It’s your pessimistic beliefs that make your life even harder and make you stop focusing on positivity around you. 

Why do you hate your life

The 1st step to solve the misery is asking yourself what is it actually that you don’t like about your life. There could be a lot of reasons why people start thinking gloomy. It could be a job that you don’t like and don’t want to continue, but you can’t leave it due to any reason. Or promotion you have been waiting for years and still not getting it. 

Or it may be concerned with the love of your life, a person who you want to be around and they are not paying enough attention to your emotions. It can break your heart and make you hate your life. 

You are ugly, and people don’t love you, they don’t take care of your emotions. Probably it can give you heartache. You start practising social distancing and spend most of your time alone in your darkroom thinking “I hate my life”. 

Or it could be about your education. You might have been spending your childhood planning that you will be a doctor or engineer in future, but you can’t get admission in relevant high school, or college. This failure can spread dark clouds of pessimism in your life. 

As soon as you catch the root cause of your problems, you will be able to make your life better. 

What will make you love your life

Here are some tips and tricks that will make you love your life for sure. You need to try them out. Don’t overwhelm yourself by trying all of them at once. You can start with just one or two. 

Start thinking positive

It’s your brain, your level of perception that makes you think “I hate my life”. Start focusing on positive things around. Think once before you speak to yourself. Choose words wisely that you tell yourself. Don’t let your thoughts on auto mode. 

Instead of feeding you negativity, start giving yourself hope. Tell yourself that maybe the day is terrible, but it’s okay. Good days yet to come.

There may be a part of your life that you don’t like, but it does not mean that you start hating your whole life. Tell yourself that it could be just one chapter of your life that’s making you sad and cynic, Remaining the entire story could bring the shine and joy in your life.  

Develop the habit of gratitude

Take a moment and think about what you have in your life three years ago. There must be a lot of stuff that you wanted, and now you have that. There could be an issue that you thought will never get solved or a miserable situation that you felt impossible to get rid of. 

But all problems get resolved. You got the position that you always wanted then why aren’t you grateful. 

Start focusing on what you have currently and be thankful for that. Start practising gratitude, and it will bring more of what you desire. 

There are numerous people out there, who want to live your life, who want to have the status that you got. Start paying attention to what you have and be happy for  that, it will bring more good to your life.   

Stop comparing yourself 

Why you are so unhappy with your life, it might be because you compare yourself with situations and other people around you. 

If I could find the love of my life, I will live happily ever after.

If I have worked hard and paid more attention to studying, I would have my desired job.

If only I were Lil bit more beautiful and bold, I would have more friends. 

“Ideals” are not real. Stop wasting your life chasing them. Nobody is perfect. Everyone is struggling in their life in one way or another. Stop comparing yourself. It’s a trap. Focus on your well being. Everyone is facing difficulties in their life, and the difference is that they prefer to show a bright side to the world. It is the key to stay happy. Keep smiling, though it’s fake until you develop the habit of keeping smiling. All troubles will disappear in thin air. You have to be patient and positive. 

 

Do the boycott of evil influences. 

Do you have such people in your life who drag you down in your life and make you feel miserable? Then it’s time to have a straight forward conversion with them. 

The people who continually have a terrible influence on you and force you to think that aren’t good enough for something or you can’t achieve something, they don’t deserve to stay in your life. Cut off with them as soon as possible. No need to stick with demotivators. If it is impossible to boycott entirely with them, At Least you can set boundaries so that they can no longer affect your life in a wrong way. 

You deserve a much better company. You deserve the people who give you strength. Who helps to build up your confidence in yourself. 

Do exercise regularly 

Build the habit of exercising daily. You don’t have to buy fancy gyms membership. You can go for a run in the morning or an evening walk with your dog. 

Doing workouts help to release happy hormones in your body. Try doing yoga or some pilates in the morning; you will feel fresh and better. 

Make yourself priority

Self-love must be your 1st love. Take care of your mental, physical and emotional health. 

Do whatever makes you happy. Take yourself on a date. Go, watch your favourite movie in the cinema. Spend time with your granny. 

Take a warm bath, while music is playing in the background.

Get vacation from boring routine and go on adventures with your favourite people. 

Set a goal for your life. Stop, pause, think, what you want for yourself. Strive to get that for you. 

It will make you think less “I hate my life”, and more of that life has many other things to cherish.

Life is not always a piece of cake, sweet and soft. Life is hard, yet there are many ways to live it in a better way. Everybody wants a good life, and the definition of a good life for everyone is different. For some people, a good life is to have a good meal three times a day and live with a roof over their heads. For others, it is about living in a big house with a lot of money in a bank account.

So, whatever the definition of a good life is for anybody, the most common thing among them is that everybody wants a stress-free life. Everyone wants to achieve their goals without struggling. But unfortunately, life comes up with so many hurdles. A person rarely achieves all he wants in a short time without struggling for it. Yes, life is hard as you have to struggle for your dreams to come true. Everyone experiences a hard time in their lives, like the death of their loved ones, striving for a job, or losing a job, etc.

How life is hard

Life is hard- your job is not that easy as you foresee it. The boss is not always a nice person. There are many challenges that you must cop up. Your workmates are sometimes a pain for you. Your salary may not be enough as you deserve. You will not always meet a nice person in your place.

Life is hard- you may not be able to marry the love of your life, or if you married the right person, his/her nature might not be compatible with yours. Your kids might not be ideal. Many other such things make life harder.

It doesn’t mean that you don’t need a break. It’s not that you are not right to feel the way that you think. It is a tough time for you. And at that time, you feel that it’s all very perplexing and just too tough. But it’s not that you give up; it the time to work even more hard. You’ve done all that you could in your life, whether at work or home. But things don’t work out as the way you had planned things or hoped. You feel that things have gone wrong, and you are not able to understand things how or why at that moment.

But that’s okay. It’s normal. This is all about being a human. Life is all about it. Life is hard. Accept that.

Once you realize that, you will feel better about your situation. Then you won’t think that all bad things happen to you and you will realize that this is common to every human being this is the part of life. You will no longer beat yourself up about how bad things are or how you are not doing so well in one area or another. You will realize that you make mistakes just like humans, and you are only human, you can do nothing about things that already happen. You are not perfect, just like everybody else.

But don’t stop there. Accepting that life is hard does not mean giving up on every situation and going with the flow. This story has two sides. As every coin has two sides on the one side of the coin, the words “life is hard” emblazoned, but when you turn that coin over, you will five minimal but powerful words. That says

“you can make it better”

How to make life better

That is the most beautiful thing about life. You can make things better by realizing your responsibilities and how you respond to the situation in a hard time. As we all know about a famous cliché

“If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.”

           All you have to do is accept that life is hard, and the only thing you can do is make it better with the right decision and attitude. You have the power to make things better; all you need is finding the ability to go through these hard times. 

           You can make things better by becoming a responsible employee so that you worth getting more responsibilities and trust from the other side. If you find things troubling you at your workplace, find a positive way out of it. You will get all you deserve in the end

           You can make it better- by accepting that every kid is unique; all you have to do is raise your child better. Make your home a happy place, be a good wife, or a husband that can understand each other and stand along with you in every hard time. 

           The only thing you have to control is yourself. You cannot change people or society or a place. All you can do is change yourself according to the circumstances. If you feel that your partner is not as ideal as you thought, you can become a perfect partner. Accept the changes in your spouse and respect his/her choices. You can make your life better in that way. Many other things in life are against our thoughts or expectations, but it all about how we are going to accept these things.

           Hard time in life is different for different people. It is not easy to cop up with hard times in life. But as time goes, things that do not break us in a hard time makes us stronger. Going through so many things helps us build a character, strengthening us more for the next time whenever we go through any hardship.

There is a point in your life where you think that it’s the hardest time in life, and you are not ready to bear the consequences of it, but once you go through all this, you will realize that it not that difficult. Once you train your mind that you are responsible for your life and you have choices to make it better in many ways, you will realize that things will start going smooth and no longer stuck because life is hard.

Don’t lose hope and find the way out of the darkness. Live, love, and laugh. Do the things that make you happy, love others, and get loved back from others. Life is still hard but make it purposeful and meaningful.

Public speaking is an ordinary and commonly understood part of formal speaking. It is a process of face to face speaking of one person to a group of listeners. This is a powerful tool and God gifted art that comes naturally.

Introducing yourself in the classroom, telling an interesting incident in a corporate party, or delivering a paper at a conference, does not make you a good public speaker. To become a brilliant speaker you should not confine yourself to the audience or expressing your thoughts publically.

 It is a process to change actions, viewpoint, and the attitude of the people and to leave the listeners moved by the words and touched by the meanings of the words. Many rules, tips, and techniques have been elaborated to motivate, entertain, and convince the audience, but they all have gone beyond and lost their actuality. Two key components define the best way to public speaking:

• A message
• An Audience

 It means that every time, you attend a conference, go to a meeting, or giving solutions to your boss, you are engaging in public speaking. It does not matter how many people are listening to you, you are defined as a public speaker. To pass on an effective and meaningful speech to the listeners, there are seven basic Elements that a speaker must have to understand. As a professional and significant public speaker, you must apply all the elements at the same time.

However, not paying attention to any of them may result in a disastrous and unsuccessful demonstration.

 It includes the following seven elements: 

• The Speaker
• The message
• The receiver or Audience
• The Channel
• The Feedback
• Noise
• The Situation or place

 The Speaker

 The speaker itself is a basic and most important element of the presentation. He should be passionate and confident about the topic. The speaker must have a clear loud voice and fluent in the language, he is using. He is a source of communication and presentation itself. Speakers use visual aids to present the topic. They put a lot of effort into making visual aids and forget that those are the just sub-elements, they cannot rely on them. The speaker itself is the presentation and the center of attention of all listeners.

 The topic which he chooses should be precise and meaningful. Questions and answers should be a part of the content. There are some tips to appear more confident in front of the audience. The speaker should not look down at the table or the shoe during a presentation; it will make his body language uncertain of what he is trying to say.

Effective and good postures play a vital role in how others perceive you. To show his confidence and authority the speaker should stand straight.

 A proper position of his feet speak a volume of his confidence, He should not stand with the close feet together but place one foot apart from another.

 Do not put the hands in the pocket because it will send a message that you are uncomfortable and unable to convey your message properly. During a presentation, your hands must be visible.

 There are some other non-verbal signals that a speaker should pay attention to become a successful presenter like facial expressions, tone, and intensity of the voice. The speaker should build an interconnection between the listeners, and himself to improve the ability of communication.

 The Message

 The best and effective speeches revolve around the central idea. It takes a center stage of all the elements. The topic should be novel and prepared freshly. The message refers to everything that a speaker would say verbally or bodily. The verbal components can be evaluated in three basic ways:

• Content
• Style
• Structure

 Content is what the speaker will say about the subject or the idea.

 Style explains how the speaker presents the topic. It must be very formal and very informal. It depends on the audience, the occasion, and the place. The speaker will choose the style that will most appropriate for him.

 The structure of the message is the organization. There are many other ways to organize the message. An introduction, a body or the argument, and a conclusion are the basic parts of the message. Poorly organized presentations will reduce the impact of the presentations. To achieve the desired objectives, the message should be very concise and affective that will engage the audience from the first 60 seconds to the last minute.

 The Receiver or Audience

 It is the responsibility of the speaker to analyze his audience before starting his presentation. Before presenting his ideas he must have to understand some basic considerations of the audience like age, sex, needs, geographic location, marital status, trade, activity, education, and profession. He must have to understand their language and the ability to turn out. Every topic must begin after getting the attention of the audience, motivating, and encouraging them to pay attention continuously. It is the responsibility of the speaker that he must have such questions that will enhance the interest of the listener and keep them entertaining.

 The Channel

 When a speaker presents his message to the audience he uses many communication channels. It may include a visual channel, a non-verbal channel, and the auditory channel.

 The Visual channel

• Graphics
• Videos
• Photos
• Drawings
• Diagrams
• Objects

The Non-verbal channel

• Physical posture
• Facial expressions
• Body’s movement
• Gestures

 The Auditory channel

• Audio materials
• Tapes
• CDSs
• The tone of the voice
• Variations in voice volume

Feedback

 It is the basic and key component of all elements. It is a process through which a speaker receives the comments and responses from the audience that heard the message. The process is not complete until the speaker has responded to all the concerns of the audience.

 When a speaker presents a topic in front of the audience, he must be attentive to the non-verbal reactions of the audience. He must prepare himself to answer to the public for these reactions during the presentation. It is the responsibility of the speaker to provide all the information to the audience that he wants to listen to them.

 Noise

 There are two types of noise that a speaker should know: External noise and internal noise.

 External noise includes laughter, poor ventilation, about temperature too hot or too cold, poor acoustics of the auditorium and the visual interference such as low lights and hindrance between the audience and the speaker.

 Internal noise occurs when the speaker feels uncertain to convey his message properly. He fails to deliver the message of what he wants to say. The best way to combat any type of noise is to use more than one communication channel the visual or an auditory channel. The speaker should repeat the ideas for a clear and better understanding of the audience.

 The situation or the Place

 The situation is the last element of public speaking. It concludes the place where the presentation occurs. It is the most critical component of the presentation. It recommends that the speaker review or visit the place where he is going to make his presentation. The situation includes the condition of the place, the tables, the seats, the atmosphere of the place, the lighting, the air conditioner, the setting of the platform. All things should be under control.